Dependency
Some people don’t think therapy is for them because they
think that they should be able to sort things out by themselves.
That's a perfectly valid choice, but sometimes the reason for feeling
this is a fear that seeing a therapist could make things go the
other way – from being independent we might become over-dependent,
even child-like. It's true that there is an element of dependency
involved – but this is a voluntary dependency, that you choose
to go into. It is one that you will also come out of, when the therapy
winds down. Therapy aims to help you become more able to
be the person you can be, not less. For a period of time however,
the support of a therapist can help you explore things about yourself
that it isn’t possible to explore when you are in a more equal
relationship. Usually, we have to look after friends and relatives
as much as (if not more than) we are looked after ourselves. In
therapy that is not the case. It does mean that the therapist
can become an important person to you, and its natural that you
may feel vulnerable at times. This is why it’s important to
check out any therapist at the very beginning, and make sure you
feel safe and comfortable enough with them.
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