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Why people seek therapy

There are two main reasons that people seek therapy: getting fed up with things that have been going on for a long time, or hitting a crisis – sometimes it’s a combination of the two.

We all have our ways of coping with what life throws at us, and we all need to find meaning and a sense of purpose in our lives. When the old ways no longer work, or we lose our sense of meaning or connectedness, then that can be very difficult. Often this is a shock, if we are used to being able to cope. It can be a real blow to our self-esteem to find that we are not able to sort things out, or make ourselves feel any better. Asking for help can seem like the last resort. However, most people do find that it is a great relief to share how things are going, or how they are feeling. Therapy can then be useful in helping to make sense of what is happening.

Some people tend to minimise their own problems, but everyone is unique, so whatever is troubling you is considered important in therapy. We all deserve extra help at times.